tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-668878932230516757.post8433609658768251913..comments2023-05-04T02:31:44.779-07:00Comments on More Than Life Itself: in darkness and in lightAutumnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01309299074271755923noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-668878932230516757.post-20869351611528624282011-01-26T08:42:56.410-08:002011-01-26T08:42:56.410-08:00I'm sorry to hear that your friendships have s...I'm sorry to hear that your friendships have suffered. Its frustrating for me when people don't understand. Reading this made me frustrated for you too. Grief is complicated. We deal with it how we can. It doesn't have anything to do with the worthiness of others in our lives. Grief is about the relationship between the bereaved and the deceased. Friends and family are invaluable in helping us through the darkness, in whatever capacity they can. Sometimes that means giving space...Sometimes it means holding on tighter. It just depends on what demands grief is placing on the bereaved one at the time. And when others don't understand what that is like - those uncontrollable pulls and tugs that grief imposes - then sometimes there is no choice but to let go. Not because you WANT to, but because you can't keep holding on...You don't have the strength. But make no mistake...those people who hold on when you can't, will be that much more valued when the wave of grief subsides. And God forbid, they should find themselves in a similar situation one day. But if they do, you will be the one holding on to them extra tightly. Because you know how much they need it. Because you've been there. And frankly, it sucks.Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04017619331927690093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-668878932230516757.post-9647740368649747192011-01-20T22:17:44.833-08:002011-01-20T22:17:44.833-08:00My best friend told me...the week after...when I w...My best friend told me...the week after...when I was still too reeling too walk properly...that she could not handle her own problems and mine too. That she could not be a friend to me in my grief. And I have not heard from her since. <br /><br />I miss her. I miss our friendship. Sometimes I think of calling her, but what would be the point? <br /><br />I hope that your friends are bigger people.Hira Animfeftehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10463914387875684115noreply@blogger.com